Why I love belly dancing

Wednesday, 22 February 2017

Photo by Brooke Cagle 

I'm always one to have something on the go - there's been Buddhist meditation, 5Rhythms, full moon dancing, morning raving, flamenco, kundalini yoga and of course the obligatory salsa. So for 2017, it's out with the old and in with my new hobby - belly dancing.

There's something very liberating about shaking your wobbly bits about without inhibition, when in everyday life we have to hide our bodies and our femininity.

Women's physiques are so often shamed - as if everything's meant to be rock hard and neatly contained. Breastfeeding in public is frowned upon, mentioning periods is taboo and magazines humiliate less-than-perfect celebrities for 'flaunting' their figures aka daring to leave the house or God forbid sunbathe. Whether they're deemed too skinny or too bootylicious - female bodies are up for judgement. And women can be the harshest critics of ourselves and each other.

Goodbye 2016

Saturday, 31 December 2016

Photography by Annie Spratt
I'd always thought the saying that life begins at 40, was just something to make old people feel better about themselves. But turns out it's true.

Looking back a year ago, I was in a job that made me unhappy, in a house with a dreadful 1970s carpet and feeling stuck in a rut. Yet, I felt excited about the changes I sensed were about to happen. 

In numerology, 2016 is a number 9 year - representing endings, completions and preparation for the next phase.  

Celebration time: finally finished my manuscript!

Monday, 29 August 2016


This year has been one of celebration. I've recently celebrated turning 40 and starting a new job. Now I'm celebrating finally finishing my manuscript and submitting it to the Romantic Novelists Association's new writers scheme.

I had hoped to get my submission in earlier than the last week of the scheme, but I'm proud to have managed to get it written at all in between working, being a single mum to two daughters and generally trying to have a life.

Although my draft needs a lot more work to make it a finished product, it feels like the first wobbly step on a long journey. Writing a book has been a lifelong goal and whatever comes next I'm happy to have achieved that ambition.

So as I promised myself at the start of this year,  I celebrated with dinner and cocktails at the Oxo Tower. It really felt wonderful to finally be there enjoying the amazing food, views and novel sensation of actually having achieved one of my new year's resolutions for once.

And while the manuscript is being read, I'm looking forward to having a bit of time off from either writing or feeling guilty about not writing. I have vague plans to watch more films, read more novels and do more exercise. Although I do have a couple of poetry ideas...

How to avoid procrastination

Friday, 1 April 2016

Image from Unsplash

"Be unfaithful to your first creations: a novel is a relationship, but poetry is sex."  Ian Duhig 

Can I just start by saying I really shouldn't be writing this right now. What I really should be doing is firstly writing a feature I'm on a tight deadline for and secondly writing my novel which I vowed to finish by the end of this month.

But whenever I have things to do, other distractions suddenly become so shiny and bright. Today I've tweeted, Facebooked, whatsapped, text messaged, listened to a podcast, browsed holidays online. Oh and sent one email relating to my feature...

I was discussing procrastination with a writer friend a couple of weeks ago. He told me of an author (I forget who) who put glue in his laptop to stop himself from accessing the internet when he was meant to be writing. It sounded rather extreme to me. Why not just turn the Wifi off?

Procrastination isn't just a modern day dilemma though. Victor Hugo apparently locked away all his clothes to meet a tight deadline for Hunchback of Notre Dame, which he wrote it in three months wearing nothing but a grey shawl. I've considered something similar, but truth be told I do most of my writing in my jammies anyway.

If I'm in a relationship with my novel then it's a bit of a messed-up one. There's days, sometimes weeks, when we have nothing to do with each other. There's days when I love it and think it's the best thing ever and days when I think that frankly I could have done better. There's certainly many days when I'm gagging for some torrid 'poetry' on the side.

But oh the good days, when my book and I cuddle up in our own little dream world and the words just flow... that's when it all seems worth it and I wonder how I could ever have doubted.

My mind is unfaithful with ideas of poems, short stories and other books I'm desperate to start on. And yes, I flirt with them sometimes, but I know I'm in this relationship for the long haul.

This draft is getting finished for richer for poorer, in sickness or in health. So the poetry will just have to wait.

How to hook your reader in the first 100 words

Friday, 26 February 2016

I'm pretty bad at getting my work critiqued. OK, I admit it - I'm a complete and utter wuss.

In fact, until a fortnight ago I point-blank refused to let anyone read a single word. So who better to deliver my first critique than an award-winning author in front of room of 40 professional writers?

At least you can't accuse me of doing things by halves.

The First 100 Words Challenge Workshop was the first Romantic Novelists Association event I had attended since joining the New Writers Scheme this year.

It was run by Julie Cohen,  author of 2015 Best Romantic Read Where Love Lies and 2014 Richard and Judy Summer Bookclub pick Dear Thing.

Julie started the session by sharing the first 100 words of her own novel.  She showed us how she had subtly prepared the readers' expectations for the main character and what was to follow in the plot, as well as planting a mystery which enticed you to read on. To achieve this, she had rewritten it again and again until she got it right.

Here are some hints from Julie:
  • Agents, editors and readers often don't look beyond the first few sentences of a story, so make sure yours stand out. 
  • Start as late into the story as possible and avoid backstory. 
  • Avoid starting with the protagonist waking up, driving, walking around or talking with her friend about life.
  • Put some conflict on the page to hook the reader. Show your main character's main problem or emotional conflict straight away.
  • Give the right first impression of your characters. What do you want the reader to think about them?
  • Use interesting language which shows your voice right from the start with active verbs and specific detail. 
  • Prologues delay the story and are often unnecessary. 
Julie Cohen (Photo by Rowan Coleman)

Before starting the marathon task of reading out 40 intros, Julie, a confident hat-wearing American, warned us several times that she would be mean. "Not to worry we're all professional writers here," she added.

By this point I was considering the possibility of disappearing into the toilets to avoid public humiliation.

Luckily it didn't come to that, as mine was one of the first to be read out.  Much to my relief I wasn't openly mocked and outed as an imposter.  Nor were there cries that it was amazing and people were desperate to read on.

Instead, there was mainly silence from the room, while the people on my table nodded and smiled approvingly (did I mention what a lovely supportive bunch they were?). Julie pointed out one particularly clunky sentence, but then praised one of my images. She concluded that not much happened and it needed to be more active. As she moved onto the next extract, I breathed a big sigh of relief. I had survived my first critique!

Listening to 40 writers' opening lines soon made it easy to both spot common mistakes and identify those which stood out from the crowd.

Scenes of people walking between places or looking into mirrors contemplatively inspired yawns, while use of evocative descriptions and anything outrageous or funny grabbed the group's attention. One popular intro featured a man dancing on the King's Road in his underwear - until we realised he was actually in his kitchen. Common consensus was that the street would have been better. When it comes to first sentences- the more colourful the better.

I left my first RNA workshop with several email addresses, a coffee date and potential plans to share a room at a writing retreat. Plus a little glow of pride; I'd been critiqued by a girl...and I liked it.

For more of Julie's useful tips for writers see her website here.

What would you do if you had no limits?

Monday, 8 February 2016

I watched Limitless again on Netflix this week - a film which always makes me feel envious. It's about a copywriter who takes a mysterious drug which enhances his brain power. Suddenly he goes from being an unmotivated loser with writer's block to finishing his novel in hours, reading hundreds of books, picking up languages just by hearing them spoken and making a fortune on the stock market.

His transformation is inspiring to watch and it makes me wonder what my own life could be like without limits. I'm so often frustrated at limitations such as the number of hours in the day and how much I can get done in them or the difficulty of translating my ideas and feelings into words which aren't cliches.

A friend of mine has been wanting to start a motivational blog about running for a while. He confessed to being worried that nobody would care what he had to say and asked how I get the inspiration to write.

I have to admit to having the same worries. Working on my novel, I often doubt if the world even needs any more books. I'm already up until all hours trying to get through the backlog of purchases on my Kindle. Sometimes I wish the publishing industry would grind to halt to allow me to catch up. There are so many classics I still want to read, let alone all the Booker lists I haven't got round to... and of course the latest Bridget Jones.

It's easy to give up on the idea of writing that book, blog or whatever it may be, but what if the story or information you have to share is exactly what somebody out there is looking for?

It's true that most things have already been said, but nobody can say them in quite the same way that you can. Nobody else has the exact voice and life experience and perspective. So I say just write it and maybe someone will be touched by your words. Maybe it will even change their life in some way. Because although we all have our limits, sometimes the worst are the ones we put on ourselves.

What happens while you're busy making other plans...

Monday, 25 January 2016

This week I was planning to really knuckle down to writing my novel. I vowed to wake early and work diligently all day while the children were at school. I already had my blog post drafted about beating procrastination and meeting goals.

But life had other plans for me - my daughter had a sore throat Saturday night, by Sunday morning it was a temperature and by the evening it was a fever.
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